HIV Positive Singles Discover It Tough to Find People on HIV Dating Sites
I have been running a successful HIV dating site for 10 years. I get e-mails all the time from members
complaining that nobody is viewing their profiles, and they are not getting any emails or flirts. I log in to take
a look at their profile and see they have actually left many fields blank, they have only written one or two words
in the "about me" area, nothing in the ideal match area and they have no photo published. Folks, I hate to break it
to you, but if this resembles your profile, nobody is going to have an interest in you. Positive Singles
Lets take a look at it another method. If you were buying cars and trucks online, and you stumbled upon an ad
that said "Nice Car", without any image, no make and model, no cost, no description and no details at all, would
you even trouble calling that individual about the automobile? Would you spend any time even seeing the ad?
Obviously not! What do you think you're doing when you publish a personal advertisement? Ahem ... it is an AD!
You're offering yourself.
If you have one or two words, no photo, and no description, nobody is going to email or flirt with you. In
reality, they are not even going to click your profile from the search results page, due to the fact that from here
they can see that you've just composed 1 word and have not posted a photo. Then, you look at your profile and see
that no one has actually seen your profile and you believe it's the site that's the problem. The real issue is
you're totally brief changing yourself by not taking 5-10 minutes to compose a quick description.
You might be believing, "Well, yeah I have not filled my profile out completely, however I will simply do the
browsing when I see somebody I like, I'll flirt with them." So you proceed to do this and you still don't get any
action. Why? Due to the fact that when you send out a flirt it tells the individual nothing about you. The person
that gets the flirt, then views your profile, sees there is no description, and no image so they don't even bother
reacting. Again, you believe it's the website that's the problem, when in reality, if you would simply take a
couple of minutes putting some information on your profile, you would get way more action!
Let's use the cars and truck example again. Let's state you published a desired advertisement for a 1995 Toyota
Corolla, with A/C, power steering and alloy rims. I see your advertisement and send you an e-mail that states "I
have an excellent car for sale"(a flirt), with a link. You click on the link and it takes you to a Craigslist
advertisement that says "Great Car For Sale". The ad has no image or description. It doesn't even say what type of
cars and truck it is. What would you do? Is this Craigslist's fault?
The only way this scenario would ever work was if there was just a handful of cars and trucks offered on earth.
Naturally, there are billions of cars and trucks, and great deals of options therefore it is with dating too. There
are tons of HIV positive singles so what makes you special? You definitely have things that make you unique, so
write about them.
I've been dong this for a long period of time and I can guarantee you 100% that the # 1 reason people don't get
any action on a dating site is since they fail to complete their profile totally and don't post a photo.
Obviously I understand on a HIV dating website, not everyone is comfortable posting an image, however if you're
not going to publish a photo, at least compose something interesting about yourself! Sell yourself. Tell people you
will share pictures when you get to know them. Or publish a photo that blacks out your eyes or the top of your
head. You can quickly do this with Microsoft Paint, which is on every windows computer system.
Anyhow, the point is ... if you don't submit your profile, you are not going to get any actions. Think of the
car analogy. It's the same thing. If you truly wish to satisfy somebody, log in to your profile now and compose
something fascinating and if you're comfy, publish an image. Positive Singles