Herpes Dating Sites in the 21st Century
When a person goes through an initial outbreak of the herpes simplex virus s/he will also undergo a great shock.
But what's even more shocking is the 50%-80% of Americans suffering from some form of herpes. Past statistics
showed that 20% (50 million) infected people suffered from genital herpes alone and the vast majority of them may
not be aware of it. Studies also reveal that over 500,000 American people get infected annually, with most of them
Another shock came when a nationally representative study revealed genital herpes is more prevalent in the US
than other countries. From a nationwide perspective, somewhere around 45 million individuals (ages 12 and older)
are infected. This means 1 out of every 5 adolescents and adults will have the HSV virus. Back in the 1970s up
until early 1990s, there was a 30% increase in the number of genital herpes infections among Americans.
This kind of sexually transmitted disease (STD) can cause two types of viruses:
Oral, herpes simplex virus type 1 (HSV-1)
Genital, herpes simplex virus type 2 (HSV-2)
Many infected individuals have little to no symptoms or signs from either infection, HSV-1 or HSV-2. When symptoms
occur, typically one or several blisters appear either on or around the rectum or genital area. Eventually the
blisters will break and leave tender ulcer sores that will heal in 2-4 weeks during the initial outbreak.
Quite often, an outbreak will appear again within weeks or months afterward, but will be less severe and have a
shorter breakout than the first one. Even though this infection can lay dormant inside the human body lifelong, the
outbreaks tend to be less severe and will decrease in numbers over the years.
Unfortunately the genital HSV-2 virus is more common in women - around 1 out of every 4 women are infected. The
reason for this is probably related to more male-to-female sexual encounters than female-to-male encounters if you
consider the violence involved.
Trying to cope with genital herpes can be quite humiliating and often leads to great despair. When experiencing
an outbreak, one can feel the symptoms beforehand and know what's coming next. The thought process is not to engage
in sexual activities so that ones partner doesn't get infected with genital herpes.
Although symptoms/outbreaks do come and go, the herpes virus lives within the nerve cell in the body well after
all signs of the infection have disappeared. The vast majority of infected individuals will experience active
breakouts every so often, while others only experience a herpes breakout once or maybe twice. However, there are
some who experience breakouts each and every year.
Scientists claim they don't know exactly what triggers the herpes virus that makes it active, but they
discovered among other things the quantity of breakouts reoccupy less and less over the years. There are some
natural remedies out there if one is willing to seek alternatives than opt for man made drugs like Acyclovir which
comes with many side-effects.
What scientist and physicians don't know doesn't mean the end of the world. Many folks research online all the
time to find natural cures and remedies that have worked time and time again.
Once the herpes virus is under control and there's a clear understanding of what to do and what not to do, as
well as using natural remedies (more on this later), one might start to gain confidence and start dating again.
After all, finding a partner in life who understands makes a relationship stronger and can bring more happiness to
Herpes Dating Sites
Not too long ago, online dating websites targeted a large audience (consumer demand) that gained plenty of
popularity over the years. But when the market started to saturate with many competing dating sites, new ones
formed and took somewhat of a different approach. They targeted a much smaller niche or specific audience. One
particular audience were individuals with STDs which gave birth to herpes dating sites that catered to many
individuals with similar issues and interest.
Quite naturally, some individuals with the herpes virus might feel a bit uncomfortable with the idea of
searching for potential mates on public dating websites. But these are the times where more and more people are
finding it harder to find someone due to many circumstances in their lives. One being, finding a partner who also
has the herpes virus. Otherwise, admitting to someone that s/he has a sexually transmitted disease doesn't come as
easy to some folks.
Nevertheless, signing up and becoming a member to one or more of these herpes dating sites, as oppose to sites
that caters to the general public, can be less embarrassing. One might feel more comfortable with this approach to
Dating websites that are designed specifically for individuals with herpes are more understanding and focused on
helping infected members more. However, this doesn't mean these sites are the only way or last resort. Many people
find new relationships as they always have - through casual meetings. Still, it may make more sense to find someone
who suffers from the same thing..
For the obvious reasons, it's easier to reveal everything to another infected person and it's safer - as there
shouldn't be any worries about transmitting the virus to someone else.
When exploring herpes dating sites generally they provide a wealth of information that relates to health and
wellness including a variety of topics and concerns. In fact, members converse all the time and share their
knowledge along with many other things they talk about. Some herpes dating sites have over 68,000 subscribers which
relate to having a rather large community out there with the same issue.
In addition to the resources that can be found on these sites, other information is included such as:
Mistaken conditions/properly diagnosing herpes
How gentile herpes affects men & women differently
Prognosis of disease
Scientific & statistical info. about herpes
Safe sex / transmission
And much more
The true purpose of these sites is creating a community for those dealing with the herpes virus. The general dating
sites tend to make a certain group of people with specific needs feel left out of the online dating scene. Same
thing goes for religious people searching for someone of the same religion and so on.
Again, being infected with the herpes virus doesn't mean its the end of the world, as one might feel alone and
never to experience true intimacy again. Herpes dating sites are increasingly popular these days, so it's not
uncommon and shouldn't be looked upon as something demeaning in character.
Creating a community such as this helps bring like-minded people together to communicate, whether it's just a
friendly platonic chat to get to know one another or dating. It goes to show just how niche dating websites have
grown over the years when addressing the needs of 10s of thousands of people worldwide with special needs and
People who are similar in more ways than one, can find each other and come together quicker when interacting
within a community online. This method offers an easier path to find other people than trying offline. Without
question, herpes dating sites help provide people suffering from genital herpes (HSV-2) a place of comfort when
getting to know other people like themselves. They also make excellent support groups for those trying to learn how
to deal with the herpes virus.
HIV- AIDS And STD Prevention Requires New Strategies
The world wide epidemic of HIV/AIDS, genital herpes, and other incurable viral STDs is largely a result of there
being an insufficient incentive for individuals to be tested. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention ("CDC")
have found increased testing to be the most effective means of prevention. However, currently, an individual's fear
of receiving positive test results is not adequately counterbalanced by an incentive to receive negative results.
The receipt of positive test results adversely impact everything from one's dating and sex life to one's credit
rating and insurability. This fear makes not knowing and not being tested the preference of the majority. Left
unchecked, and absent mandates for global testing, people will continue to avoid testing and continue to
insidiously both, knowingly and unknowingly infect their partners. Without a cure or improved treatments for viral
STDs, an individual's fear of receiving positive results will be difficult to overcome. Therefore, the focus of the
new prevention strategy should be to develop incentives for individuals to be tested that also appeal to selfish
motivations, rather than global calls for social responsibility, which have proven insufficient. The most
economical and powerful solution is to leverage the tools of social networking, which CDC have found to be
effective. This requires an efficient means by which prospective sexual partners can mutually communicate their
negative HIV /STD test results, prior to sexual activity.
Problem - No Incentive for Testing
The principal problem of HIV and other viral STDs is that both the carriers and their partners are not aware of
their infection. CDC estimates that in the United States 25% of those infected with HIV are unaware that they are
infected. They have also found that the best means of preventing new transmissions is to ensure that those infected
are aware of their condition, because when people know they are positive they tend to reduce their level of
sexually risky behavior. CDC and World Health Organization ("WHO") now call for annual HIV for all between the ages
of 18 to 64. However, these recommendations are still incomplete models to effectively isolate the disease. They do
not provide a self-interested motivation for individuals to be tested and they remain biased toward a philosophy of
treatment over prevention.
Current Partner Notification Systems
There are examples of online partner notification systems that have proved successful; however they are also
retroactive measures of disease isolation, rather than proactive prevention. Inspot.org is a non-profit website
that allows people who have been infected with HIV to anonymously notify past sexual partners that they are at risk
and should seek testing. Statistical data on the effectiveness of this system is not available, but one may surmise
that it would at least help to encourage high risk people to seek testing. This is a beneficial system for those
already infected, but does little to help individuals prevent contraction. Its anonymous system, although
practical, does little to encourage open discussion about HIV/STDs before sexual activity takes place.
Sites for Positive Carriers
Interestingly, there are a number of successes systems that "sero-sort" positive carriers from the larger
population. For example, in Africa, there is a popular Internet dating site called HIVSingles.com, which encourages
HIV positive people to date other HIV carriers. It is successful because it allows people to mutually identify
themselves as carriers, thereby removing the moral and ethical dilemmas, awkwardness, guilt and legal liability
associated with dating someone who may not be infected. There are other such sites like HerpesSingles.com, which
have become popular in the United States and similarly encourage people infected with genital herpes to date others
also infected with the disease. These sites do however instill a false sense of security because there are many
strains of these viruses, which may cause more or less severe symptoms depending on the individual. Also, there is
a risk that new, more dangerous and more easily communicable viruses may be born out of increased
cross-contamination in individuals who are exposed to multiple strains. However, at least these sites isolate those
infected with certain sexually transmitted infections, from those who may not be infected. The popularity of these
sites begs the question of why similar systems are not available for people who have tested negative for sexually
transmitted diseases and who wish to remain healthy.
An online health service could provide a practical means for couples to identify each other as having received
negative test results. If popularized, this will make routine testing and disclosure a social imperative. The site
leverages social networking to foster a socially driven incentive for individuals to be tested for HIV, herpes and
others STDs. By making it easy to identify one-self to others as having been recently tested, with negative
results, it will make one more attractive to a prospective partner. This creates a self-interested incentive for
people to engage in testing and to disclose it openly to their partners. It also provides the tools for members to
require that their partner be tested and to disclose negative results in kind. The networking effect will become
increasingly powerful as the membership grows, for failure to produce such information will make one less
attractive and result in fewer occasions to engage in sexual activity with other members.
The risk of contracting HIV and others STDs is now the single greatest fear for daters with new partners, which
has created interference to the normal course of sexual relations. This signal of a CheckTonight membership will
reduce the fear in others and demonstrate one's social responsibility. Membership will reduce the interference and
add an additional layer of protection in addition to the use of condoms.
Condom Use Insufficient
The rising rates of new STD infections shows that the condom alone is an insufficient measure of prevention. The
condom has been clinically demonstrated to be a highly effective tool in preventing HIV and some other STDs,
however, the increasing rates of new STD infections show that the condom in practice is insufficient. The porosity
of condoms, the slippage and breakage rates and the limited area of coverage all compromise its strength of
prevention; however its primary failure is its practical requirement. The condom is required immediately prior to
sexual activity taking place, when clear reasoning and normal risk aversion are often clouded by passion and or
alcohol. The reality is that most who claim to "use condoms" do not use them properly in every single instance of
sexual activity. In fact, 70% of Americans with multiple sex partners do not use condoms for every act of sexual
intercourse. For example, condoms are often applied after several minutes of sexual activity, rather than from
start to finish. It is time to reevaluate the effectiveness of the condom, based not on its ability to prevent the
transmission of viruses in a laboratory, but based on its effectiveness in reducing the number of new sexually
transmitted viral infections.
A new web service will provide a trusted and reliable means of communicating health information between partners,
at their choosing and will provide an incentive for people to be tested more frequently. Over time, routine testing
and partner disclosure will become a social imperative and greatly slow the spread of disease. By introducing a
means of easily communicating fundamental indicators of personal health and social responsibility, it allows
critical information to be used to assist in partner selection. This process may occur long before sexual activity
takes place. Such a service will also improve safer sex practices among members and help to promote and educate
people on the risks of STDs and the importance of proactive measures for prevention. Additionally, rather than
creating a false sense of security or encouraging greater promiscuity, it will assist in fostering risk aversion.
Members will be more likely to engage in safer sex practices and to select their partners more carefully in order
to sustain their status as members, who must test negative every 6 months. We need incentives for people to be
tested often and to discuss matters of sexual health on an informed basis. This system is required to advance
public health and for people to be accountable and proactive about disease prevention.